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Post by Sunshine on Jul 4, 2007 0:41:41 GMT -5
That those of us who want to be married and have a serious relationships end up marrid to those who want to play around?
Why cant those people, that wanna fool around marry each other, or better yet, not get married at all,
why cant they not lie and let those of us who want the forever kinda thing, find it with somone who wants the same thing?
why cant they leave us to find someone that loves us as much as we love them?
they can play the field and not hurt anyone by staying single when they do it.
So why wont they?
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Post by Sunshine on Jul 4, 2007 0:44:53 GMT -5
Dont they realize once they hurt someone like that it ruins them forever, thye cant ever truly trust someone again.
or do they just not care?
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Post by Sunshine on Jul 4, 2007 0:48:53 GMT -5
Keep the smartarse answers off this thread please im being dead serious.
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Post by letinmfly on Jul 4, 2007 8:36:21 GMT -5
Cat you're looking for an answer to a question that might not have an answer. Or at least not a simple answer. Here's some one word answers....selfishness, confusion, stupidity, uncaring, unhappy, you get the idea. I think that in most cases these people are continuously looking for happiness because they are unhappy. In my opinion they will never be happy and never find true happiness. It's the grass is greener on the other side syndrome. Yeah you can learn to trust someone again. You just have to allow it to happen.
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Post by Sunshine on Jul 4, 2007 10:31:02 GMT -5
YEP..lol i was feeling lonely last night..LOL
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Post by letinmfly on Jul 4, 2007 14:50:52 GMT -5
YEP..lol i was feeling lonely last night..LOL * shaking my head *
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Post by Sunshine on Jul 4, 2007 17:33:56 GMT -5
YEP..lol i was feeling lonely last night..LOL * shaking my head * LMAO ;D
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Post by huckleberry on Jul 4, 2007 23:57:39 GMT -5
ok ya caught me...lol...i said i don't go here.....but this one caught my eye.......so live with it.....LOL
That those of us who want to be married and have a serious relationships end up marrid to those who want to play around?
Because those of us that want that serious relationship are sometimes suckers for love. We think we have found it and hope beyond hope we have. It is so rare to find a really good person now a days that we fall for the ones we shouldn't.
Why cant those people, that wanna fool around marry each other, or better yet, not get married at all,
Because they see they have a better person and want to claim them as thier trophys. They also don't like themselves enough to marry someone just like them. They caint stand how they are alot of times, so how could they possibly like some one else like theirselves?
why cant they not lie and let those of us who want the forever kinda thing, find it with somone who wants the same thing?
Because they are users. they take the opposite sex as a challenge. If they can catch a certain one they have fulfilled their own personal goals. Once that has been satisfied in their own minds they don't care anymore. Just another notch on their belts.
why cant they leave us to find someone that loves us as much as we love them?
they can play the field and not hurt anyone by staying single when they do it.
So why wont they?
Same answer as above. They see good people as a challenge...they want to conquer them and will do anything to make themselves happy. They also know alot of people lookin for real love are sometimes desperate enough to believe or fall for anything.
The other side of the coin is those who take advantage are really honest up front about what they want and the gullible folks that are lookin for long term love and relationships take anything to the extreme. That happens alot.
I know this cause I have went through it several times myself. That is the best I can figure it anyway.
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Post by Sunshine on Jul 5, 2007 1:26:22 GMT -5
Thanks Huck..nice post...but now im even more depressed..
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Post by huckleberry on Jul 5, 2007 13:22:18 GMT -5
well Sunny.....ya need to get out....find yourself a real fella and get happy.........or..............stop being so bull headed and get your little rear up here on my lap........LMAO
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Post by Sunshine on Jul 5, 2007 13:28:52 GMT -5
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Post by trappinggirl on Jul 5, 2007 13:31:00 GMT -5
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Post by ozarkmountainman on Jul 5, 2007 13:55:41 GMT -5
well i think alot of them are always lookin for the bbd "bigger better deal" be it money or looks or social status or whatever
i also believe with the movies and media magazines they try to convince everybody they can be princes and princesses rather than bein themselves, so when the end up with someone "average" they think theyre better than that, the movies targeting young girls/guys these days is all about getting the best looking guy/girl they can find, and when they see some better looking one the go after them.
that dont explain all of them, but seems like alot of them.
not always true, but it seems the closer to the city you go the lower peoples morals and convictions are, and they continue to go down every year, resulting in more people like you describe every year.
but cheer up sunny, there are still good ones out there, ya gotta just look a little harder and be more careful these days
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Post by Sunshine on Jul 5, 2007 19:01:07 GMT -5
its all about taking your time to get to know the person
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Post by powerhouse on Jul 7, 2007 2:31:04 GMT -5
true friendship is the key to a long standing relationship. You have to be friends before u can have the trust and understanding that is needed for that solid foundation. Too many times people really don't enjoy the other person, they are just enamored with them for a while!
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Post by Sunshine on Jul 7, 2007 11:51:54 GMT -5
i agree but sometimes even friendship isnt a big enough basis to start a romance. When youve been hurt the trust just never fully comes back for anyone. It may not be fair, but thats the way it is.
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Post by powerhouse on Jul 9, 2007 12:22:47 GMT -5
if a relationship can't be based on friendship, the how can u ever hope to have a trusting relationship? U've got to truly like the other person and want to share everything with them, good , bad and indifferent! U enjoy their interests and want to help with their problems, u can be there for em to hold in times of happiness and in sorrow! What are friends for if not forever?
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Post by huntwithdogs on Jul 10, 2007 0:44:08 GMT -5
Well, lot of good ideas spoken here, and I would just like to say that it most probably boils down to the "friendship" aspect IMO. Without sharing this important part of a relationship, than there is absolutley no solid grounds for anything good to ever develop. I also think that two people have got to be on the same mindset from the very beginning in order for anything to ever have a chance. How do you trust that they share your same feeling on a relationship? Well, you really can't, but must go soley on feeling. The partner in the relationship may half heartedly agree with all your ideas and even sound completely sincere, therefore, how do you ever completely know if they are true and solid or not. That's the kicker of it all in my mind, the "how do you know" business is what is scary to me. "Time" to learn a person is definatley a great way to feel him or her out, as well as bond strongly, and make a solid foundation. "Time" is helpfull, as "Rushing" has a bad history for disaster in most cases. Hmmm....I guess one can ponder questions and answers all day on this type of subject, but I truly do believe that there is in fact some well minded people out there, that just need to be found where ever spot in the world they may be. Once someone such as you Cathryn has been burnt to your core, it may never seem like it is possible for any "good" and "trusting" people to be left in this world, but I just have a haunch there is...
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Post by merdigurl on Nov 24, 2007 14:49:53 GMT -5
well Sunny.....ya need to get out....find yourself a real fella and get happy.........or..............stop being so bull headed and get your little rear up here on my lap........LMAO :ohehehehe lmao!!!
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Post by Sunshine on Nov 24, 2007 15:57:28 GMT -5
Huck, you couldnt even begin to handle me
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Post by spade on Nov 24, 2007 20:50:25 GMT -5
Well, Cat, I have never experienced what you have been thru.
But I do know hurt is like is like a bucket of crap, if you let it stay in the bucket is going to get smelly and the longer it is there, the worse it is going to get, until it starts growing something, that is going to really hurt you.
So the solution is to empty the bucket and clean it out, wether you like the smell of it or not, and then refill it, empty it, and clean it again. Then one day the bucket no longer fills up and it doesn't smell.
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